Mara had her baby last week. Yesterday, Thursday November 6th, Brad and I went to his funeral. (I started this post on the 3rd and published it on the 7th. It kept the 3rd date on it.) They don't know what happened, he just stopped breathing. They were able to revive him, but he never fully recovered and went too long without oxygen. It was such a shock, we were unprepared.
It was nice to go to the funeral and face a difficult situation head on. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. When Mara and I first faced each other in the reception line, we couldn't speak. We hugged and sobbed for what seemed to be three minutes. We were holding up the line, so I moved on to hug her mom and Mara hugged Brad. Later in the dining reception, we sat and were able to speak and talked about how they are doing. Mara's mother's first baby died at birth and her fourth baby was born without kidneys. She is a huge source of strength for Mara and us. It was amazing that in the midst of their pain, they would try to make us feel better. Mara's husband, Travis told me not to feel bad. He told me to enjoy every minute with Jack. He assured me that they will try again in two years when her c-section heals. We can't believe how wonderful they are!
6 comments:
oh my gosh how devastating. i wasn't prepared for this! i saw the dates and was confused. what strength they must need and you can give that to them. you're so great.
Wow. I'm so sad for them. Good thing Mara's got a friend like you Alison. I bet this post was difficult to post.
Oh my gosh, Alison. That is terrible. I can only imagine how emotional this must have been for you guys. What a blessing to have each other's shoulders to cry on during this difficult time.
oh dear! I wasn't expecting this at all! How tragic for Mara and her husband, especially having to wait all this time for her own. I can only imagine the terrible ache you two must be feeling right now. I'm so sorry!
Oh wow Alison. I was shocked to read this. I am so sorry...this must have been so hard...for everyone. I'm sure she appreciated you there and the great support you always give. So sorry Alison.
I didn't know about that, what a hard thing for them to go through. My prayers go out to them.
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